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OK - here’s a short story that will make you a better leader/CEO.
Be, Do, Have
A few weeks ago, a dear friend told me about a brilliant mental model from the Hoffman Institute for creating transformation:
It's called Be, Do, Have.
The traditional line of thinking is Have, Do, Be:
I need to have X. Then I can do Y. Then I will be Z. A classic example: I need to have more money and fancy things, then I can do the things I want, then I'll be fulfilled.
The reality: The conditional approach—if I have X, then I'll be Y—never works.
Be, Do, Have flips this traditional thinking on its head:
I will be Z**.** Then I can do Y. Then I will have X.
In the context of our example: I will embody the state of being of a fulfilled person, then I can do the actions of a fulfilled person, then I will have the things I desire.
This model focuses on the internal, rather than the external, and centers on your identity in the present, rather than placing it in the future. It is a reminder of your control over your world.
It brings to mind one of my favorite quotes:
"Don’t waste your time chasing butterflies. Mend your garden, and the butterflies will come." - Mario Quintana Something I’ve come to believe: The things you want most in life will come to you, but only when you’re ready for them.
Be, Do, Have: Mend your garden and the butterflies will come.
An important reminder:
I recently came across this beautiful passage:
"Farmers who wait for perfect weather never plant. If they watch every cloud, they never harvest." - Ecclesiastes 11:4 There’s no such thing as a perfect moment.
There are just moments—and your actions determine the outcomes.
"Go make those moments perfect through your actions.**"
The ultimate life hack: - Find a partner (or friend) who believes in you more than you believe in yourself. - Here's a text message conversation with my wife after I found out the news about my book.
Everyone tells you to believe in yourself, but there are times in life when it's hard to do that. Maybe you haven't generated the necessary evidence to establish that belief, or maybe you're just feeling stuck in the darkness.
In those moments, having one person who believes in you—who gives you permission, who taps you in—is all you need to push your way through.
Find that person. Cherish them. Be that person to someone else.